Issues with dating a recovering alcoholic
At this point I am not sure if my son would be better off without him or is that wishful thinking on my part.My son comes first, I do not need someone in my life to succeed and make me happy, I do just fine on my own with my son.have stayed-been through the rehab therapy and family meetings n in addition I am a nurse- so I Didn’t Do What others advised me to do- I used tough love n showed myself to be tougher- but in the end internally I am left hurting more than ever- everytime his siblings help him out financially n also pay for his treatments n when he is out n sober- it is me n our 2 (now) teenage children who have 2 pretend like everything has been wiped clean n all is right with the world.
My husband and I found a WONDERFUL place for him to get treatment and he is there now by the Grace of God. We are both Christians so we wanted a place that would not just “dry him out” and turn him loose.
This place is a 4 month BIBLE based addiction recovery and IT WORKS!!
I do my own thing, just earned my associates and am working on my bachelors, I also work two jobs and take care of my 8 year old.
The only enabling I do is not throwing him out on his but, I do not dwell on what he does and doesn’t do, I think about it but, I never let it stop me from what I want in life and who I want to be.
He started drinking heavily when he moved to his parents’ farm, with which they requested his help, and I stayed in the county where we both had lived. He also says he doesn’t know why he does it and that he hates himself for it. No, but I feel drugs and alcohol are very different.
I didn’t see it developing, had no experience with alcoholism. When I met him 3 years ago, he had been clean for 5 years. He was away most of the week for work and stated all week that he just wanted to be home with me. He knew how I felt about that before we became engaged an promised me it would never happen. I also have a hard time buying it that this is a disease.I am completing certification in teaching yoga to recovering addicts and their loved ones. This would be a perfect time to add some personal time. You can then plan an intervention and set boundaries: your husband should seek help or you’re out of there.Though my finances and credit score have taken a huge hit, I hope to be able to earn my Psy D in psychology, a life goal. I’ve been married to my husband almost 23yrs, my husband recently got out of treatment in July 2013 but has relapse for the past 3 weeks of continuous drinking.My highest priority is taking care of our children and raising them to be healthy which, of course, means becoming healthier myself. Last night we talked for a good hour and he basically said that he does not want to stop drinking and that I need to decide if I want to stay married to him that I would have to accept his drinking and not nag him cause it causes him anxiety and stress. Today I found him bitter, angry and severely depressed after him drinking 6 beers while I was at work. A part of me thinks I should leave and the other part of me wants to stay. if someone will leave you because your an addict or if you will leave someone because they are an addict then there was never love, just lust. but the addict did not choose to addicted I have been married for over 9 years to an opiate addict.Kyzcy Hawk ‘s recent blog post led me here and I am so glad. You are volunteering, growing spiritually, and taking responsibility for your actions. We fight constantly, we fight about our pasts and his affairs. Ive been on both sides amazingly and addiction can actually be a good thing to make your 2 halves a whole. He was not an addict when we married or when we had our son.He now after 3 years of not working or helping pay bills has a job.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating