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Unlike that man, who manages to break the almost tangible tension in the air with those few words that ultimately lead to conversation, I remain silent.

Where I struggle to hold eye contact or stop grinning, they are very comfortable in themselves and with the language of the night and things we are asked to do.

I, on the other hand, have to hold back a snigger at ‘divine god’ which Guy uses to describe the men in the room. In contrast to the women, each man I lock eyes with around the circle is like a nervous ball of energy. But then, just try looking silently and directly into the eyes of a stranger and see how long you last: it’s a very exposing thing to do.

They, just like the pair to my right, sound unsure and nervous.

From my safe place behind the curtain, I glance over at two women and a man sitting in awkward silence on a large, low couch — until another fellow speed-dater bounds up and asks them to budge up, breaking the silence — much to everyone’s relief.

Each ‘couple’ forms a ‘station’ and at each station we do an exercise together that Guy talks us through from his prompt cards, like a gameshow host. For the first one – as I sit opposite a total stranger – we’re asked to list all the things we find beautiful about the person in front of us. Another exercise has us sitting down, mirroring each other’s movements, which ends up feeling like a contemporary dance. With the next gentleman, I must now hug him and apologise on behalf of all my sisters, which he feels sincerely grateful for. Though Guy is pretty chill, approaching life talking about personal energies and meaningful connections, he’s also thankfully a New Yorker and can crack a joke.

While I ponder on what they’ve done during the lifetime of this poor chap, his body is heating up like a roaring furnace and I’m glad when I can finally let go before all moisture evaporates from my body. At the end of each rendezvous, lasting anywhere between a minute and three minutes, Guy invites us to pop one of our beads in the man’s pouch, if we are interested in talking more, while they stand with their eyes closed. It allows us to laugh at the awkwardness of it all and, perhaps, cunningly, let down our defensive walls, allowing people in and deepening the connection.It was Guy who had the idea to combine tantra with dating when he noticed a pattern in clients telling him they found it hard to meet people in New York.But, he also realised something else: that many of us don’t have the tools to sustain a relationship.So, he set about creating an event that was about making meaningful connections – where you have the time, space and right environment to give each other your 100% undivided attention and tap into each other’s ‘energy’ during the first encounter instead of it being something fleeting and disposable.That is what Tantra is about and it forms the backbone of the philosophy around Tantric dating too.I also wear a dress which is floor-length, but only at the back.

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